Wednesday, October 26, 2005

re:thinking sexuality

A friend of mine recommended that I listen to Rob Bell’s latest message, so I took him up on the offer and did so. The message was amazing, you can download it from the Mars Hill church’s website. I could go on for hours about this stuff, but I just want to give a quick summary on some things that God brought to the forefront of my mind:

Our culture has skewed sexuality by paralleling it with the act of sex, with making out or holding hands. But sexuality is so much more. Sexuality is our awareness of disconnection and our searching for reconnection. We are disconnected from God, from others, and from creation, and sexuality is our pursuit of reconnection. Think about it: what is the heart of romance? It is being connected with another. Sex is the ultimate act of being reconnected, to the point of becoming one with another. But sex in this sense is just a small part of sexuality.

Singles can be just as sexual—and even more-so—than those engaging in intercourse. It’s possible to have an extremely active sex life but still be completely disconnected, and therefore sexuality is still starved. It’s possible to sleep with someone but still sleep alone. Some singles are so sexual that they abstain from marriage in the pursuit of reconnection with the intimacies of God, others, and creation. We miss the entire point of sexuality when we align it with having sex.

Our culture is not oversexed, it’s undersexed. Our culture has missed the entire point of sexuality! We’ve missed that it’s about reconnection with God, others, and creation. Therefore, to be sexy is to be in communion with God, with others, and with creation; it’s so much more than the sound of your voice and the appearance of your skin. When we become more and more truly sexy, we become less and less jealous, envious, angry, and frustrated with ourselves. We also become less and less bitter and argumentative and angry and frustrated with God.

My call is that we pursue true sexuality, not the cheap knock-off sexuality seen all over the place.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

I really never thought about it that way. That's awesome man. AMEN!

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